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About Bullying

Is It Bullying?

Is it truly bullying? Or is it rude behavior, a mean moment, or conflict that can be resolved? Before you report bullying, try to understand what bullying is and is not.

RUDE: Accidentally or unintentionally saying or doing something that hurts feelings or embarrasses someone
 
MEAN: Saying or doing something on purpose to hurt someone; happens once or twice
 
CONFLICT: Conflict is a disagreement between friends or peers who are equal in power. There is always a solution to work through conflict, although it can take practice and isn’t always easy!
 
BULLYING: Behavior that is on purpose, repeated over time and involves an imbalance of power (*power = older, bigger, stronger, social power). Types of bullying include physical, verbal, relational, and cyber-bullying.

When students can correctly identify a behavior, then they can use the appropriate tools to handle the situation. Encouraging resiliency and empathy are cornerstones in how you can help.
 

Conflict Resolution Tools

Conflict is often labeled or misunderstood as bullying. Conflict is a natural part of life and a natural part of friendships. Students need the skills to deal with conflict in a safe and reasonable way. American Academy students are taught that there are at least six ways to handle conflict, through classroom guidance lessons and with visuals aids around school. You can download a copy of our American Academy Conflict Resolution poster from the link on the right and keep these guidelines handy at home.
 

HA-HA-SO for Bullying

Teaching our students to be “up-standers” and support a classmate is the best way to help in a bullying situation. When a student feels they are being bullied, they can use HA-HA-SO to help themselves:
 
HELP: Ask friends, teachers, staff, and parents for help. Lots of people care about you and want you to feel safe!
 
ASSERT YOURSELF: Use "I" statements in a calm voice, for example: "I don't like it when you pull on my backpack and I want you to stop." Walk away.
 
HUMOR: Use humor in a positive way. Make a joke about what was said, not who said it. Example: When teased about hairstyle, say "I didn't know you cared enough to notice."
 
AVOID: Stay away from kids who are mean and join with others rather than being alone.
 
SELF-TALK: Think positive statements about yourself and your accomplishments. Example: "I know I'm kind and smart."
 
OWN IT: Say you agree and walk away or combine with an assertive statement. For example, "Yes, I did fail the test and I don't appreciate you looking at my paper."
 

Report Bullying

If you've been, or know someone else who has been, a target of bullying behavior that is intentional, repeated over time, and involves a power imbalance, please make a report. Both school reports can be made anonymously.
 
Resolve the conflict, keep the friend - the only person you can control is you.